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August 2008 
Power in proliferation
Posted on Apr 6th, 2008
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Stella Luna
Stella Luna
Changes can be made simply by speaking.
When you make others aware of how you feel, and they return the favor there is a possibility of change in a positive way that silence would not make possible. I have experienced this first hand.
Anger is not a valid response when someone has done the same thing every day since the day you met them and you finally speak up after the 150th day to say "fuck you! that doesnt make me feel good", though it is a valid motivator to communicate. Its better to wait until you can speak to someone without the burden of irrational thinking that anger most of the time induces in people.
I know this because I recently went through it.
I was angry, and I responded in a way at the time that was passive aggressive, though unintentional. In my case it just seemed like the pieces fell into such a place that allowed me to speak to people that normally I wouldnt. I should have gone straight to the source as soon as possible.
In my defense the person was playing the unavailable game and I was responding by mirroring his steps, though out of anger, not out of disinterest. But I did finally get to say to him what I wanted to say and what needed to be said.
I have always been an advocate of communication and truth, without which nothing can ever "become" at least when it comes to relationships.
When you make others aware of how you feel, and they return the favor there is a possibility of change in a positive way that silence would not make possible. I have experienced this first hand.
Anger is not a valid response when someone has done the same thing every day since the day you met them and you finally speak up after the 150th day to say "fuck you! that doesnt make me feel good", though it is a valid motivator to communicate. Its better to wait until you can speak to someone without the burden of irrational thinking that anger most of the time induces in people.
I know this because I recently went through it.
I was angry, and I responded in a way at the time that was passive aggressive, though unintentional. In my case it just seemed like the pieces fell into such a place that allowed me to speak to people that normally I wouldnt. I should have gone straight to the source as soon as possible.
In my defense the person was playing the unavailable game and I was responding by mirroring his steps, though out of anger, not out of disinterest. But I did finally get to say to him what I wanted to say and what needed to be said.
I have always been an advocate of communication and truth, without which nothing can ever "become" at least when it comes to relationships.
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